28 Nov THE ART OF SAYING NO
It starts off with a powerful urge to lose yourself. To create a chaotic whirlwind of popularity (at whatever cost) and to seek out an existence or identity that distracts you from your true essence. This fruitless and unfulfilling pursuit usually kicks off in your teens. Social media has fuelled a frenzy of unrealistic expectations and life perspective. It’s a place where you can thrive, but it is also a dangerous place to play when you’re uncomfortable with who you are.
Forget authentic relationships, close bonds and heart centred communication. It’s all about accumulating a large pool of ‘acquaintances’ and social commitments because let’s face it guys, sitting in silence with your own thoughts can be mighty uncomfortable and tragically unfashionable.
But what if I told you, that it’s in these moments of solitude, that you’ll be given the insight and strength to overcome the challenges you’re avoiding?
Where beautiful ideas reign supreme, confidence spreads like wildfire and where you will learn to connect with who you are and where you belong. You’ll also attract like-minded people who care deeply about you and support you every step of the way.
It’s NOT knowing who we are that creates an uneasy space for fear-based thoughts, judgement and self-doubt. And one day you’ll look back and think ‘why on earth did that matter?’ Good news is, this need to be surrounded by noise will reach a peak, and one day, ‘keeping up appearances’ will become far less appealing than your favourite pair of sweatpants, a night on the couch with your dog and five magnificent friends you can count on one hand.
Let’s save you some seriously precious years and nip it in the bud NOW!
I’m 36 years of age, and I’ve only recently mastered the art of saying “NO” (late bloomer). Remember, YES is not always best. Throwing it around like confetti is a bad habit and robs you of the power to make your own decisions.
You are 100% responsible for where your life’s at. There will always be something to attend, a needy friend to support and an endless TO DO list but start making a very conscious note of what’s benefiting you and what’s not.
We’ve all RSVP’d based on fear. Be honest about why you’re committing.
- Does this support my short and long-term goals?
- Does this support someone in need (community)
- Will it bring me joy?
- Are the people involved part of my big picture?
- If nothing bad could come from saying no, would I still go?
Every single commitment you make will either make or break your quest for a life you truly desire. Take ownership of this and learn to be your own best friend